Getting Them Back After A Break Up

Sometimes people grow apart in a relationship and they go their separate ways not because they do not love one another but because they just don't know how to make it work at the time. If you aren't quite ready to let go yet, you can try to get the person that you love back.

You should go in knowing that you have at best a 50% chance of getting them back in your life, but if you feel strongly about them and you have any reason to believe that the feelings are reciprocated, you may be able to make it work. You need to put your time and your energy into the process of getting someone back if you want any chance, but generally it is worth the time and energy!

First things first, let your ex know how you feel. Tell them that you don't want to be apart and that you want to try it again and this time you want to get it right. If you don't get any resistance chances are that they feel the same way and at this point you need to start showing the person that you love them. There are some simple ways to do this that will really make a lasting impact on the person that you are trying to get back. Some great ways to show your love and affection when you are trying to get them back include but are not limited to:

Send them love letters, send them little gifts, leave them notes on their car, on their door, or under their pillow, bring them lunch and dinner, offer to give them a massage when they have had a long day.

Take them out to dinner, prepare a candlelit dinner for them , be a friend and really listen to what they have to say, say how you feel and don't hold back, let them know through written and spoken words that you love them.

These are some really simple ways to let someone know that you love them and you want them back. These are just little things that you can do every day to let someone know that you are the most important thing to them, and even though you have broken up, that you still have a chance to make things right.

Of course, there is a chance that with all of this effort that your ex won't ever actually take you back. You have to know going in that all of your efforts may be for nothing in the end, but it is worth it if you really love the person and you want a chance to have them back in your life.

Have faith going in that showing them how much they mean will afford you another chance, but also keep it in the back of your mind that in the end you may not work out now or in the future. All you can do is put your heart into the process of wooing them back into your life.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of http://www.faceromance.com/marriage/ Online dating services.